I believe we tend to forget that babies and children are people. They might be smaller and see the world differently, but they deserve to be treated with respect. I’m not talking about screaming and insulting. I mean the more subtle ways a lack of respect creeps into the interactions we have with our children.⁠

🌱 I try not to talk to my children in a way I wouldn’t want to be spoken to.⁠
I wouldn’t like it if I would be made fun of for pooping.⁠
I wouldn’t like it if someone would tell me not to cry or that I’m silly to get upset about something so trivial.⁠

🌱 I think we underestimate the capabilities of babies. I know I did. I saw a post by @nickav25. She was letting her youngest child choose what to wear by providing two clothing options. This inspired me. Once Aria learned to grasp objects, I started offering her the choice between two toys to play with. It was impressive to see that she had a clear opinion on what she wanted at such a young age.⁠
With my son, I try to empower him by teaching him that I’m not the boss. Everything is up for discussion, and I listen to his opinion and consider it. Rules are set by listening to everyone’s points of views and by coming to a mutual agreement. The rules are not set in stone. He can always propose changes or tell me when they no longer work for him, and so can I. This doesn’t mean that there are no boundaries. It’s up to me to evaluate that for example, his health and his schoolwork are not jeopardised.⁠

🌱 I pay attention to not do anything to Aria without telling her first. For example, I tell her when I’m going to pick her up or wipe her mouth.⁠

I’m certainly not perfect. These things don’t necessarily come naturally to me. I catch myself picking up Aria without warning her or notice I’m too authoritative with Matteo.