Babies can’t tell you when they are hungry, what is bothering them, why they can’t sleep. So I read books, listen to advice from people who have been through this before, do what Kind & Gezin advises (the local authority on childcare in Flanders). But why does a lot of the information I receive conflict with what feels right to me?⁠⠀
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Giving birth was the most primitive experience of my life. I never realized more that we are animals. My baby is an animal. She doesn’t know about all the things we invented that pulled us away from our true nature. She doesn’t know about houses with bedrooms or formula milk.⁠⠀
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Animals don’t read books or listen to podcasts. So how do they know what to do? They know instinctively.⁠⠀
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This realization helps me to evaluate if I trust the advice that I read/hear/receive. If it goes against my instinct, I question it. How would it work in nature? How would we sleep with our baby? How would I feed my baby? What would I do with my baby during the day?⁠⠀
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I’m attracted to attachment parenting and awareness parenting, because it feels right to me, natural, and I don’t feel conflicted.⁠⠀
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I feel confident I’m doing the right thing for our baby girl by carrying her close to us during the day, by holding her close when she cries, by breastfeeding her when she lets us know she’s hungry and by sleeping close to her night.⁠